Going off to college is supposed to be the best time of your life, where you become who you will be for the rest of your life, where you create a life path and where you make new friends. But what I have started to realize now that I am two months into my college career is that college is a test of the relationships you built before you went away.
Coming to college has really been a test of past relationships of mine. Before I came to school, I was very blessed to have a big group of close friends. In addition to all of my friends, I have a very tight knit, typical Italian family and I now value those relationships so much more.
Being separated from some of my best friends has made me realize how much I miss them. There are a few people that I haven't seen them or heard their voices in the entire two months that we have been at school and this makes me wonder, how will things be when we come home for Thanksgiving? Will things become awkward or will things seem as though no time has passed?
Last night, I came to the realization that one of my best friends in the whole world is slowly slipping though my fingers. I feel like I am loosing him and I got to thinking about why. When I was at home with him, we were stuck like glue, two pees in a pod. Then at the beginning of the summer he got a girlfriend and thats when things started heading downhill. He pushed my relationship to the side and started to wrap himself up in her world.
As much as I can blame him and his girlfriend for the gap between us, I also have to take some of the blame. Going away to college can be really hard on relationships and me not being home to being with him like I used to, I can't give him all of the blame of our failing relationship.
College really does show you who your true friends are. You learn who really cares about you and you learn how to handle long distance relationships, romantic or not. College teaches you that if you really care about someone and want to keep them in your life, you have to put in effort.
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